Help Desk
Help Desk: The Biggest/Littlest Decision
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I’ve now reached the age where the question regarding children has become increasingly relevant. To have or not to have? How does a successful artist combine her career with her life as a mother?

Louise Bourgeois. The Curved House, 1990; marble; 14 x 37 x 13 in.
In the three-year history of this column, never have I been so uniquely unqualified to answer a question. Not only do I not have a child, but at no time have I ever experienced a pang for one. Additionally, I have the gift of a mother who never pressured me to produce grandkids; instead, when I asked what might happen if I skipped that particular life experience, she merely shrugged and said, “Not everyone has to have children.” Still, for some people it is life’s best and greatest adventure, and since that’s how I got here, I won’t contradict them. The important thing is that you choose what’s right for you.
I reached out to some artist−mothers to find out how they combine career and motherhood. Desirée Holman suggests you start by asking yourself some hard questions about your goals and your lifestyle: “What’s your ambition, or what level of an art career do you want to have? How much do you want to be working? What’s your standard for parenting, and how do you feel about outsourcing the care of a young child? How well do you deal with the world on less than a full night’s sleep? What’s your support system—is there a partner involved, or a family support structure? Is there money? Do you have high standards about how clean your house is going to be? Are you willing to take a part-time approach, or even a hiatus, for the first several years of your child’s life, and then ease back into your career?” She notes, “These are all substantial parts of the life/time management of a mother and artist.”




















